We shoot for happiness. Happiness is good, it's the expansion of self. You win a victory, you get a promotion, your team wins the Superbowl: you're happy.
Joy is not the expansion of self, it's the dissolving of self.
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Joy is a better thing to aim for than happiness.
– David Brooks, https://www.ted.com/talks/david_brooks_the_lies_our_culture_tells_us_about_what_matters_and_a_better_way_to_live